If you are a parent .. by Azim Premji

    I just read this spledid piece of writing in STOI. This is written by Azim Premji, the Chairman of Wipro Ltd…

   If you are a parent, you have many aspirations for your child that may include him or her becoming a doctor, an enginner, scientist or another kind of successful professional. I believe these aspirations are driven by your thinking about your child’s future, and her centrality in your life.

   Since good education is often the passport to a good future, I presume it leads you to getting your child to study hard and do well in school exams. To bolster this, you send him or her for tuition classes. This would have primed your child for board exams and entrance exams, thereby leading to admission into a good professional course. Doing well at college increase the probability of landing a good job. And a good job means the child’s future is ensured.

   I am neither a psychologist nor and educationist, and what I will now state may seem counter- intuitive. I think that these aspirations and actions might be doing more harm than good to your child. To understand why, we need to re-examine some of our fundamental assumptions.

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Internet : A Solitary Refuge ..?

Owing to the pitiable conditions of our electricity board, we are not getting power in daytime.. That’s why I keep getting less time to work on my blogs .. 🙁 .. Hopefully the conditions will improve soon …

Recently, me and my friend were having a discussion over hobbies and areas of interest .. He asked me what I quote as my hobbies .. I said .. Surfing the Net .. Reading ..Listening to music .. Playing Cricket whenever my old chaps assemble… My friend told me not to include Surfing as a hobby in my Resume .. I asked why ..? He said surfing looks like a lonely act .. It gives the impression that you seek refuge in the Internet and turn your face from the “more social” things.. I did agreed to some of the points but later thought over it .. These are points that came to my mind .. Btw .. I had to bring “addiction to the Net” in discussion to elaborate my points ..


I still remember when I first used the Internet in my life .. It was in a new Cyber Cafe that had opened near my college ..As my friends were busy playing Pool, I was trying to cope with the discoveries that were appearing .. I had used Email on my college LAN earlier but this new technology (WWW) was so much new for me .. I instantly felt the fondness for the Net … I still remember the first website that I opened was Zeenext ( I think its closed now :-p ) .. I created my first email address on that site .. Then I learned that there is far more to the Net than just emails .. I found out Yahoo! which was emerging as the leader in Search technology those days .. I searched and downloaded a Cobol compiler for my studies… which later turned out of no use to me as it didn’t worked on Netware and it wasn’t a freeware .. .. But still .. I searched and prepared my study notes on the Net .. Soon my friends too started finding about the new “fashion’ .. Their favorite websites ..? Of course porn ..:-p .. ( Honestly I didn’t surfed porn cauz it was an expensive deal .. It was 60 Rs. an hour and I could see newest film for Rs 10 at my home comfort :-p .. ) .. My friends too realised it soon and then we started chatting … We used to search girlish IDs in the chat rooms and then chatted with them for soo long .. Soon I realised I can create multiple IDs on Yahoo! and started fooling my friends with girls IDs … It was fun … Then when we were working on our project, I referred to many programming websites for my work .. It really helped me …Then I joined many forums and communities .. (fortunately most of them are extinct now :-p .. ) .. I made many friends and met some of them too … Later I got Internet at home and I started to use it for my studies and chatting ….

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Changes in ethical values … Or is it ..?

Hmmm .. In accordance with my preparations for the SBI, I have decided to take a topic everyday to discuss and to think about .. So this is the first in the series .. I’ll keep posting my less intellectual posts too along with this btw .. 😛

Popular TV serial Jassi Jaisi Koi Nahin can be regarded as a metaphor to the current society. The story of a Plain Jane becoming a successful entrepreneur has lots of twists and intrigues…

Anyone who had followed Jassi Jaisi Koi Nahin will be having some food for thought now. As the story unfolds, Jassi is now reconsidering her ethical and moral values. Following the betrayals and setbacks, she has come to the conclusion that world regards honesty and truthfulness as a weakness in one’s personality. So now, She has decided that she wont let any weakness stay in her.. So what does it mean ..? Is she going to take the path taken by those who lack conscience ..? Is she going to answer in the same language that everyone was talking to her ..? ..

So what went wrong ..? Is Jassi right now or was she right earlier ..? If she is right now, then are we living in a world which is so called practical in sense but lacking moral values ..? If she is wrong, then what should be done..? Lets try to find out the reasons with my limited knowledge..

I recall a quote here :
Fallacies do not cease to be fallacies because they become fashions..

According to my observations, we like the people who are well mannered, honest and truthfull. We want to become like them .. But if someone having those qualities reaches any distinction, we tend to have suspicions over him. We think somewhere beneath his apparant honesty is deceit… The path to the top needs many sins to be done .. .. We cant generally accept that anyone who reaches top has a clean record..We start getting jealous of him .. And add to this if the person has risen from a lower (be it economic or social) class and is not having a good looking face, our jealousy multiplies… If someone becomes practically what we wanted to become theoretically, we started getting jealous of him…this is what Jassi faced … But what’s Jassi’s mistake in it ..? Who needs to change ..? Jassi or the people around her …?

I feel that a person like Jassi if turned evil will do a good harm to the society, and the people around her cannot and will not change ..So shall we keep living with questions like these unanswered ..? In my opinion, if change is needed anywhere, its in the system ..If the system is changed, then the people will change automatically.. But this cant be done overnight .. So much labour required .. attitudes need to change .. definitions of ethics needs change … definition of success needs change …Can such vast changes be brought ..? I am tempted to say Yes ..!! All we need is a initiative .. if I could shed my reservations and If I could overcome my covetousness, I can think about changing others around me .. One should start with himself .. So here I am starting to do actually what I believe and give everyone the credit he deserves ..

The ethics will not change .. the attitude needs a change ..